monday musings: i’m sorry that happened to you

with Susannah at an open mic

with Susannah at an open mic

“I was told I can’t sing”

“My mom/dad/sister/brother said I shouldn’t sing”

“My music teacher told me to mouth the words”

In celebration of World Voice Day, in case you’ve had any of the above experiences, I’m sorry that happened to you. Not every person dreams of being a Broadway singer, or a Grammy-award winning singer, but I haven’t met one person yet that doesn’t enjoy singing. So, if someone squashed your joy of singing because they didn’t like the way it sounded, I’m so sorry.

I have clients that remember what their music teacher was wearing, how there hair looked like, how they smelled, the day they were told they shouldn’t sing. That’s called trauma! It’s instilled deep in who we are; who we believe we are. I wish those teachers could have figured out how to help you match pitch, because it can be done.

My favorite calls or emails from prospective clients go something like this:

“I was told I can’t sing. Can you help me learn how to sing?”

I’m so impressed by their resilience. Often my traumatized clients come to me in their 50s and 60s after being silenced in their childhoods. It makes my day when someone reaches out because after all this time, their desire to sing and sound good is so strong, that they try again. I imagine there a many people who took those as statement of facts and never tried again, believing it as truth. If you’re out there reading this, and you have an inkling of wonder, and a desire to sing out without fear or embarrassment of being heard, give me a call!

When the world sings, there is peace. There is harmony. In musical terms, harmony is a combination of pitches being played or sung simultaneously. In life, it means agreement or tranquility. Happy World Voice Day! Let your voices be heard!

Xoxo julie